You met her, shared a nice dinner, drove her home and kissed her as she left. You fell in love or you thought that you did. It has been two weeks since that first kiss and you start realizing that she is not the one for you. Her phone calls are no more welcomed by you, her texts are not replied to and her picture is no longer the wallpaper on your mobile phone. Alas! You think you did a mistake by falling for her, at the same time one side of your heart still wants her around. This is exactly what happens with many among us. Often we are too quick to start a relationship but not too sharp and smart to sustain ourselves in it. The reasons can be many – maybe you were inebriated when you asked her out in the first place. It is also possible that the black dress she wore the other night tickled your feelings for her. Further it is also possible that you are seeing someone you think can be a better match than your existing partner can make with you. The more we look into these reasons, lesser they seem to justify the shift of attraction and bond that we once shared with this special person whom we asked out.

It is not that you have to live the relationship, choking yourself in case you feel that things will not work out. Be honest to yourself and your partner about what and why you feel that things may not work between you two. But before that make sure that you are not being impulsive in walking out like you were when walking into the relationship. Staying there, trying to make things work will not make them work but worse. Don’t hang in there for you have to; hang in only if you want to. Things may hurt you and your partner a bit initially but make her understand that without a lucid image of feelings and thoughts, the relationship could have actually ended in turmoil and the damage would have been irreversible. Don’t apologize too much and don’t go overboard trying to explain that you still love her for that would do nothing but just make it even harder for her to walk out. You surely don’t want that, do you?

The post-breakup period should not be the one that has hundreds of text messages being shared hinting towards being united again. Let the time take care of the part where you really want to make sure that she is doing fine. She will not wake up next morning singing her favorite tune and looking into the mirror, the way she did earlier just because she wanted to look even more beautiful for you! Give her space, give her time and for sure don’t give her any reason to go back and look into the memoirs of love and affection you shared. This doesn’t mean you pull her off your Facebook friend list or tweet on your twitter account declaring that you are once again single – it just means that stay silent, stay sound!

Another thing that often leads to ill in two people is that they choose not to stay as good friends after they part their ways as a couple. It will add to the credibility of the love you once claimed you had in your heart, if you can still be good friends. Make your partner feel that she can count on you like she would on her best friends.

Don’t forget – a tear today can save a hundred tomorrow. So decide and take that first step that you have been hesitating to take till now.